Nowadays, you don’t have to look too far to find a woman whose having problems finding that special fella who’ll treat her right and the TS world is no exception. So, here’s my straightforward advice on how to treat your special TS lady on your first date.
Most TS girls are old fashioned and like to be pursued and wooed. They want to be treated just like any other girl. So respect and manners are highly appreciated. Chat her up and take an interest in your date before you even pick her up. What are her goals, her passions, her interests? Let her know you want to know the ‘real’ her inside.When you arrive always bring a token of your esteem. You can never go wrong with flowers or a simple little trinket, but don’t go overboard. Even the best of us ladies take advantage of a really good thing, don’t be a pushover and don’t try to buy your girl’s affections.
Pick a setting where you can talk, an intimate restaurant or a stroll on the beach. Dancing and clubs are spectacular, but you two are just getting to know each other and yelling over music is a turn off. Any girl appreciates a great sense of humor but keep it light. What you shouldn’t talk about is just as important as what you should. So let’s just steer away from sex, money, surgeries, crazy cosmetic questions or pre or post-op queries on the first date. That’s hitting a bit too close and she’s not ready to trust you yet and trust is the key to intimacy. She’s not there to be studied, she’s there to have a good time. If you don’t set her off, she won’t go off.
When the evening is over, walk her to her doorstep and seal it with a romantic kiss. If it goes farther and she decides to have you in for a nightcap, don’t assume you’re getting into her bed just because she’s letting you over her wall.
Lastly, remember when dating, to be patient, sweet, and chivalrous. Almost all TS girls like the “fairy tale” stuff from the movies right down to the white picket fence. Being attentive and proud of her while showing confidence and being a good, true friend will be the thing that wins your TS lady’s heart in the long run.
Venus Lux is a Transsexual Adult Performer, Director, Producer and CEO of Lux Entertainment. This is an advice column for the Trans Community and those that love them. Each week , Venus fields questions from all of you and picks one that covers a different aspect of the Trans world, from love to life to sex to transition. If you want Venus Lux to answer your question in her next column send your question and/or explain your issue in an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org