Venus Rising: If It Feels Good, Do It.
The positive feedback I’ve been getting since I’ve started writing this column for the Transsexual community has been amazing. Thank you for your support and especially for your questions. This week I was asked what my sexual orientation was by many of you. I don’t like to color in the lines and don’t really follow ‘the rules’ . I think sex shouldn’t be defined but explored. My reader Simone wrote in to ask my perspective on a possible shift in sexual preference after transition. I think it is a winding path for all genders, not just for transgenders.
I am preparing to make my full transition and yesterday my brother asked me ” What sex are you going to be attracted to now?” At first, I was mad but then I thought… is that going to change? After you transitioned did your sexual orientation change?
It’s interesting, I have this discussion often. I truly think that the “T” should be left off the LGBT. Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual are sexual orientations. The terms Transgender or Transsexual, whichever you prefer, are not orientations. This is a literal transformation, which by the way, does not occur without rigorous psychological and physical evaluation. It’s about your gender not matching your body and the discomfort you experience because of it. It is possible that your orientation will shift post transition, anything is possible, but in the way that any human being’s orientation might change over time as they get to know themselves and open up to who they are. All experiences change you in life. Personally, being an adult performer has certainly introduced and exposed me to all sexual orientations and genders, such as transsexual women and women in general. That is when I started experimenting with my own sexual tastes and limits. Today, I’m still exploring the boundaries of my sexual preferences, with men as my default interest. Being in adult films has opened me up to all possibilities, I am now always looking for the next challenge and most unique experiences. Anyway, honey, I say don’t worry about it, don’t label yourself and put more stress on it than there already is. Sex is complicated enough without you over-complicating it by over-thinking.
Venus Lux is a Transsexual Adult Performer, Director, Producer and the CEO of Lux Entertainment. This is an advice column for the Trans Community and those that love them. Each week , Venus fields questions from all of you and picks one that covers a different aspect of the Trans world, from love to life to sex to transition. If you want Venus Lux to answer your question in her next column send your question and/or explain your issue in an email to: email@example.com