Hello Rachelle, for those who might not know you please let us know you are and please describe yourself?

I was paralyzed at my bachelorette party after being playfully pushed into a pool. I sustained a spinal cord injury and am now a quadriplegic. I’m super outgoing and I love sports. When I’m not taking fantasy football too seriously, I’m hanging out with my husband and super cute daughter.

You were recently named by Dallas Novelty as their new brand spokesperson. How did the idea of you being a spokesperson come about and how what lead you to say yes to the opprotunity?

I was hooked up with the Public Relations director Lainie Speiser through a mutual colleague. She told me that the shop was started by a man with a disability and I was instantly intrigued.. A huge platform of mine has been educating society about disability and sex so it was a perfect fit

I would imagine most people are at least curious as to how your sex life works due to your disability.. So could you tell us in what ways, besides the obvious, it is different now compared to before the accident?

I’m totally OK with being open about my sex life because I think it’s important for able bodied people to understand. Sex is quite similar. I mean there’s no walking required. The positions are the same, I might just need Chris to get me in the position and then it’s normal from there. I am a quadriplegic but I do have a lot of function in my arms. Quadriplegic just means you have impairment in all four limbs. For me, it is the use of my fingers and some triceps. I can still get on my elbows, or hold my legs back. As far as feeling, I do not feel the touch but my body still reacts. I can’t orgasm unfortunately but some people in my situation can but my brain gets the positive signal and my body tingles. Plus, it makes me feel close to my husband.

Now I had to ask that because part of being the spokesperson for Dallas Novelty is that you will be talking about the different toys that you and your husband use. So what kind of items do you and your husband like to use when being intimate or just to have fun?

Any form of stimulation is great for me because I don’t have full feeling, the stimulation will help my body get ready for intimacy.

What would be something you’d like to see made in the arena of sexual aids that you could use or just in general?

I have heard from multiple people with my same level of function that a vibrator with a handle would be great for people without full hand grip like me.

One of your stated goals is to break break stereotypes when it comes to sex and people who are disabled. What are some of these stereotypes and how are you hoping to change perceptions?

The first question people have always had is usually “can you have sex”?.  When people think about those with disabilities, they probably don’t have a very positive image. But people with disabilities can totally still have sex. I want to show people a positive, sexual image of someone with a disability so their minds can be open.

You are also the author of a best selling book, The Promise: A Tragic Accident, a Paralyzed Bride, and the Power of Love, Loyalty, and Friendship, where you talk about your accident and all the struggles and joys that came with and after your marriage. What was it like writing this book and do you plan on writing a follow up and if so what would it be about?

It was great writing the book because I was able to tell my full story. I’d love to write a new one maybe one about misconceptions and stereotypes. You wouldn’t believe the things some people do and say.

What do you want people to take away from your story the most?

Most people want me to say things like “where there’s a will there’s a way” or “you can do anything if you just try”. That’s just not true. I’m not going to just walk if I push myself. I’m going to need science. But, We should all strive to be the best versions of ourselves And of course, that people with disabilities can be beautiful, sexy, smart, amazing partners. Don’t shy away from that hot chick at the bar who happens to use a wheelchair. She may be your dream girl.

If you could have a conversation with anyone, dead or alive, who would you choose and why?

There’s a few but I’m going to go with John Lennon. I’m a big Beatles fan and totally wish I was a hippie.

What sort of things do you like to do when you aren’t working? Any hobbies?

I love playing wheelchair rugby, aka murderball. Singing country music and shopping are some things I like.  In the summer, I’m definitely a beach girl

Are there any projects or special events coming up that you would like to promote, if so please do so?

I plan on being busy on representing Dallas Novelty as their spokesperson, helping my fellow disabled women and men on how to get the most out of their sex lives and reviewing the latest Dallas Novelty products. My goal is to make the general public aware that we are all sexual beings and our disabilities do not change that, we can do everything you can do and that include enjoying a full and exciting love life.

All photos courtesy of KandiPixels Photography