Hello Lovers,

Thanks for all the positive feedback, I’m glad you’re enjoying this forum! This week a reader wrote in regarding something I feel passionately about and wonder why many in the mainstream don’t question more often. 


What is your view of sexuality? I know from experience that many transgendered women find themselves grouped within the gay community, how do you feel about that? 




To me the T is glaringly out of place in the GLBT abbreviation. It’s so interesting to me that a sexual gender gets lumped in with a series of sexual preference identities. It does not make sense and when we are grouped together, to be honest, it offends me. I believe strongly that the transgender community is a separate community of its own.

First and foremost, transgender is not a sexual preference, it’s a separate gender with sexual subcategories all its own. Transgenders find themselves attracted to men, women or other transsexuals. For example I am a transsexual who prefers men, in essence a straight woman.

Yes, I will admit that I once categorized myself as gay before my transition but now as a transgender woman I am not. I do not identify myself as a male any more, this is why I don’t categorize myself as a gay.

I did not go through the hardship of transitioning just so someone can group me in with male homosexuals. If it were as simple as a preference why would anyone transition?



A Venus Lux 6

Venus Lux is a Transsexual Adult Performer, Director, Producer and CEO of Lux Entertainment. This is an advice column for the Trans Community and those that love them. Each week , Venus fields questions from all of you and picks one that covers a different aspect of the Trans world, from love to life to sex to transition. If you want Venus Lux to answer your question in her next column send your question and/or explain your issue in an email to:   fans@venus-lux.com